I was flicking though a book the other day by Neil Donald Walsh, one of the "Conversations with God" series, and as always when perusing his writings, I was struck by one particular paragraph. He was questioning how a person can remain peaceful and loving when the world around you is demonstrating the opposite. In fact, this is what is asked in the book:
"How do you remain peaceful when the world is demonstrating everything but peace? Loving, when the world is demonstrating everything but love? Forgiving, when the world is demonstrating everything but forgiveness?"
The answer given in the book was, as always, spot on: "You insist on being who you are no matter what the rest of the world is being". The question which immediately arose in my mind was as to how many of us actually have the confidence and belief to do this? How many of us have a firm basis of self belief?
We are not born with a lack of confidence; rather, we are an almost open book, the pages of which are turned in accordance with our experiences. We learn to like or dislike ourselves as a result of the actions and reactions of people around us. We learn our levels of self belief and self confidence as a result of the types of experiences which we encounter.
Those first few years have an amazing impact upon our later experiences in life. Because to (loosely) quote Henry Ford "if you think you can you probably can, but if you think you cannot, you are probably right". If you think you can do something you will have a go at it with confidence, and determination to find a way to do it. On the other hand, if you were to only think that you might be able to do it, you are less likely to look for alternative paths to achievement when the going gets tough. And, if you do not think you can do it at all, you will not even give it a go.
Those first few years in this way shape our later reality. We make our choices based upon our framework of self belief. We get into situations which then confirm and strengthen those beliefs. It is all too easy to go from a childhood in which you felt unloved or unworthy into later relationships where you take on the role of one who is worthless, one who is a victim.
But it is never too late to change. To change the outer reality of your life, to change who you spend time with, where you live, how you allow people to treat you, how you allow yourself to be swayed in this or that direction, and so on, you first have to look within. Because everything that is happening in your life now is happening because you chose this path, either consciously or inadvertently.
More often than not, those choices are made accidentally, more by allowing things to happen than by thinking "oh wow I want that to happen". The key to being peaceful and strong in yourself, and staying on your own path, is to look within and to take control of your own mind and your own choices.
This is why I am so in awe of the power which hypnosis gives to us. Hypnosis allows contact with your inner mind; it enables you to reveal to yourself the thoughts and attitudes previously hidden within your subconscious mind. Not only that, you can use hypnotic suggestions to install confidence building feelings and attitudes. And this can be done in the comfort of your own home, with the help of hypnosis downloads.
There is also an additional dimension to having such a strong sense of self that you always stay on your own path, knowing that this is where you are meant to be, no matter what is happening around you. This added dimension reaches further inwards to our sense of the spiritual, an inner knowing that we are on our current path for a reason, the knowledge that we are in the right place at the right time.
With a degree in psychology and qualifications in hypnotherapy, NLP and sports psychology, Roseanna Leaton is one of the leading practitioners of self-improvement. You can get a free hypnosis download from http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com and peruse her extensive library of hypnosis confidence downloads .
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