How To Cope With Rejection

By admin / July 25, 2011
By: Roseanna Leaton
Category: Divorce

Rejection is painful. Anyone who has experienced rejection will know that the pain experienced is akin to that of physical pain. Your heart aches and the rest of your body seems to come out in sympathy. Until now, however, we have tended to think of that pain as something which is emotional as opposed to physical.

Recent research carried out by the Universities of Michigan and Columbia has discovered that the areas of the brain that respond to physical pain actually overlap with those responding to relationship break-ups. The pain of a break-up, the pain of rejection, really does hurt. The pain felt is not imagined; it is real.

We have known for a long time that our emotions impact greatly upon our physical health and well-being. We have been aware for some time of research showing that people in a supportive relationship tend to be healthier and live longer than those who are alone.

The effect of having a supportive spouse does not just have an emotional impact; it also affects one in a very physical manner. The positive effect upon our health is real, not just imagined.

It is therefore no wonder that many people hypothesized that the opposite could also be true. That a relationship breakup could have a negative physical effect and not just create an uncomfortable emotional reaction. This recent research supports the hypothesis that the pain experienced as a result of a relationship break-up can indeed be very real. It can be equally, if not more painful than other types of physically induced pain.

Pain is the body’s signal telling you that something in wrong. Rejection does indeed feel wrong. It hurts, really hurts, to be rejected. When we have a physical pain we know that there’s little you can do about it; you go to the doctor and have bones repaired or sprains strapped. You take painkillers. And you do your best to distract yourself and take your mind off of it.

We know that the more you focus upon something the more you notice it; the act of focusing shines a spotlight upon whatever is your object of attention. And so this is something that we should all be aware of in treating the pain of rejection. To change your focus, to distract yourself, is extremely important and an effective way of lessening the experience of pain, no matter what its root cause is.

One wonders whether in light of this recent research taking painkillers would lessen the pain of a relationship break up. That said this inevitably would treat the symptom as opposed to the cause. The cause of relationship break-up induced pain is more to do with how you are thinking and focusing.

Ok. I know that’s not strictly correct. The absolute cause is the break-up itself. How you are thinking about it comes second. The pain you feel is the result of that thinking. You cannot control the absolute cause. The break-up has happened. But you can control the way in which you are focusing and thinking about it all. There are ways in which you can change your thoughts and get away from the feeling of rejection.

Hypnosis provides an immediate means of mind control. With hypnosis you can take a step back from your emotions, dull the sense of pain and change your focus. It’s quick, easy and effective.

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