Being alone does not merely impact upon our emotional well being it also has a knock-on effect upon our health and expected lifespan. Thus to fear being alone can be seen as a very real threat. It goes against the grain to be alone.

Even one who enjoys a lot of solitary activities does not usually wish to be alone all of the time. Solitary confinement is a grave punishment and only those who have endured it can really appreciate its impact upon your emotions and well being.

Our sense of self derives in many ways from social approval, and if that is not there it is easy to lose that sense of who you even are. There are however in most of our lives a time when we do have to face the fear of being alone in one sense or another.

We can experience a very real sense of loss and loneliness when we lose a parent, even when we have a spouse, siblings or children. We can fear being alone when a relationship breaks down or we lose a spouse for other reasons. It is possible to be surrounded by many friends, family members and acquaintances, and yet still feel alone.

Conversely, you may be entirely on your own and yet not feel alone. Loneliness is an uncomfortable feeling and therefore one that we do not relish. Everyone would like to learn the secret of inner happiness that allows one to be able to repel those feelings of loneliness before they come knocking upon the door.

Some people have strong Spiritual or Religious beliefs that provide them with a sense of togetherness in the world. They always feel as if they are supported, guided and loved. Others do not have the benefit of these beliefs.

An alternative way in which some people overcome and repel loneliness is by developing a very strong and powerful sense of self. They have an inner confidence and a feeling of inner strength, which allows them to feel that all is good in their world.

Either way, to cope with loneliness it is clear that one has to have a particular attitude. It is your own beliefs and attitude to life that allows you to either give in to feelings of loneliness or to repel them. If you suffer from a fear of being alone, then you could use hypnosis mp3 recordings to build a stronger sense of self and to empower your inner beliefs and expectations.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis confidence mp3 downloads.

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There is much evidence that we survive more easily and more comfortably when sharing our lives with other human beings than when we live life in a solitary manner. Research shows that we live longer and healthier lives when time is passed in the company of a loving spouse.

Being alone does not merely impact upon our emotional well being it also has a knock-on effect upon our health and expected lifespan. Thus to fear being alone can be seen as a very real threat. It goes against the grain to be alone.

Even one who enjoys a lot of solitary activities does not usually wish to be alone all of the time. Solitary confinement is a grave punishment and only those who have endured it can really appreciate its impact upon your emotions and well being.

Our sense of self derives in many ways from social approval, and if that is not there it is easy to lose that sense of who you even are. There are however in most of our lives a time when we do have to face the fear of being alone in one sense or another.

We can experience a very real sense of loss and loneliness when we lose a parent, even when we have a spouse, siblings or children. We can fear being alone when a relationship breaks down or we lose a spouse for other reasons. It is possible to be surrounded by many friends, family members and acquaintances, and yet still feel alone.

Conversely, you may be entirely on your own and yet not feel alone. Loneliness is an uncomfortable feeling and therefore one that we do not relish. Everyone would like to learn the secret of inner happiness that allows one to be able to repel those feelings of loneliness before they come knocking upon the door.

Some people have strong Spiritual or Religious beliefs that provide them with a sense of togetherness in the world. They always feel as if they are supported, guided and loved. Others do not have the benefit of these beliefs.

An alternative way in which some people overcome and repel loneliness is by developing a very strong and powerful sense of self. They have an inner confidence and a feeling of inner strength, which allows them to feel that all is good in their world.

Either way, to cope with loneliness it is clear that one has to have a particular attitude. It is your own beliefs and attitude to life that allows you to either give in to feelings of loneliness or to repel them. If you suffer from a fear of being alone, then you could use hypnosis mp3 recordings to build a stronger sense of self and to empower your inner beliefs and expectations.

Roseanna Leaton, specialist in hypnosis confidence mp3 downloads.

P.S. Discover how you can focus your mind with hypnosis. Grab a free hypnosis mp3 from my website now.
 

Grab a free hypnosis mp3 from http://www.RoseannaLeaton.com and view her library of hypnosis mp3 downloads and hypnosis confidence mp3s.

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A mentor of mine recently commented that "coaches keep complaining business is too slow." In response, I reported that things are the opposite for me, and that I am rarely slow. He asked me to present him with "The Top 10 Reasons Why My Coaching Business is Not Slow," and here they are:

10. I place great emphasis on business development.

I get bored easily. (Typical ADD!) If I’m not continually challenging myself with developing new products, new services, new marketing techniques, and new speaking engagements, I get bored. I have a menu of products and services and I continually add to it, based on what my clients and prospects have told me they want and will buy.

9. I make the most of my newsletter, which has about 2200 subscribers and grows daily.

I give my subscribers valuable information, whether or not they choose to take advantage of my pay services. But I also don’t hesitate to make them aware of what I have to offer. If they buy, great. If they don’t, I don’t take it personally. At least I know I am putting out some good into the world and reaching a ton of people.

8. I keep my professional network & strategic alliance partners in the loop.

Many of my clients come from referrals. I feel that it’s very important to maintain regular contact with people who are referring clients to me, or who may refer clients to me in the future. I always acknowledge referrals and offer my thanks and appreciation.

7. I write down all my ideas.

I wish the government would pay me to sit in a room all day and generate ideas! I’d truly succeed. I am constantly dreaming up new and exciting workshops, programs, and products. I can’t implement them all at once, but I do write them down so that I can access the ideas when the time is right.

6. I’m happy making my living helping.

I continually remind myself of why I am coaching and what it means to me. I keep a "Happy Folder" where all the good feedback goes and I review it when I feel down. I work for the money. I coach because I love it. I coach ADDers because they’re fabulous people.

5. I focus on marketing, not BS work.

While it’s impossible to stay clear of what I call "BS work," I continually remind myself that things like web updates should only occupy my time when absolutely necessary. I’d rather spend my non-coaching time getting new clients.

4. I’m authentic and rarely attract an incompatible client.

If I know that I won’t work well with a potential client or that the relationship will not be satisfying to one or both of us, I refer the client to another coach who is better suited for the job. I would rather spend my time with – and make my money from – clients whom I know I can make a difference with.

3. I have an excellent team in place.

It took a while, but I finally embraced the idea that I can not, and should not, be doing everything. Delivering the coaching and developing the business are my strengths. I prefer to let others utilize their strengths in all other areas.

2. I have decided to make this coaching business work, and darn it, I will make it work!

I used to think that the word "failure" didn’t belong in my vocabulary. I came to realize that failure is inevitable. It will happen. And when it does, I am just one step closer to finding a solution that works.

1. I welcome the occasional "slow down" of business.
When things are slow, I use it as an opportunity to create more opportunities. "Slow" periods give me the time I need to focus on and follow through with marketing, client recruitment, and product development. Which of these can you do, right now, to move your own business forward?

Jennifer Koretsky is an ADD Management Coach who helps adults manage their ADD and move forward in life. She publishes The ADD Coaching Business Report, an eNewsletter that helps other coaches succeed in their business and marketing efforts and create viable coaching businesses. Subscribe to The ADD Coaching Business Report at http://www.addmanagement.com/ACBR.htm

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The Structure Problem

Structure is an issue that most self-employed service providers struggle with. ADD coaches, in particular, often suffer from self-imposed pressure to always "be there" for the client. ADDers frequently need accountability and follow-ups, and many coaches fall into the trap of thinking that in order to be a good coach, they have to be available all the time.

This is simply not true. The first rule of being a ‘good’ coach is to be a ‘good’ person!

In order to be a ‘good’ coach, you must feel good about yourself and your life. You must be a happy, fulfilled person who has a surplus of positive energy. You cannot serve your clients well if you are overwhelmed and over-scheduled. You have to have a life outside of work. And in order to do this, you must have boundaries in the business.

Business boundaries come in the form of schedules. The business is OPEN certain days of the week, and CLOSED other days of the week. On those OPEN days, the business has certain operating hours.

No matter how great a coach you are, no matter how many people you are helping, and no matter how much good you are doing in the world, you cannot forget that your ADD coaching practice is a business, and businesses need boundaries.

If you forget this fact, you will struggle both emotionally and financially.

What To Do

First, decide what your working days are. What days of the week will your business be OPEN? What holidays will you have off? How much vacation time will you allow yourself?

Then, decide what your working hours will be. Establish your operating hours for each working day.

Next, figure out which days you will actually be coaching in your work week. Don’t forget that you need time every week for administrative, marketing, and planning tasks.

Finally, stick to it! If a (potential) client calls on Sunday, and Sunday is not a working day for you, wait until the next business day to return the call. Clients won’t respect your boundaries if you don’t respect them.

A Living Example

Many self-employed service providers fear that limiting their availability means that they will lose clients. I have found the opposite to be true.

Here’s my favorite example: A former client of mine is a massage therapist. When we began working together, he was working 7 days a week, taking clients any time of day or night. If a client called and wanted a massage at 6:00 AM, he’d do it. If another client wanted a massage at 10:00 PM that same day, he’d do it! He was so scared of losing a client that he burnt himself out being on call all day, every day. To make matters worse, he could barely make ends meet. He simply wasn’t getting the number of clients he needed to sustain himself and the business.

We both knew that he needed to decrease his working days and his operating hours, but it was hard for him to get over his fear of losing clients. Eventually, he did. He cut back to 6 days a week, started attending exercise classes in the mornings, and decreased his evening hours.

To his surprise (but not to mine), business picked up. Most clients were happy to book an appointment within his new operating hours, and he let go of clients that weren’t. His stress level decreased, and he found himself giving better massages, which led to more referrals.

This former client checked in with me about a week ago, and he was happy to report that business is booming! He has been booked and making great money. While this client is not a coach, I have seen this scenario happen over and over again with myself, my colleagues, and my clients who are coaches.

When you let the boundaries blur between yourself and your business, you will struggle with stress, overwhelm, and anxiety. When you take care of yourself, your business will take care of you.

Jennifer Koretsky is an ADD Management Coach who helps adults manage their ADD and move forward in life. She publishes The ADD Coaching Business Report, an eNewsletter that helps other coaches succeed in their business and marketing efforts and create viable coaching businesses. Subscribe to The ADD Coaching Business Report at http://www.addmanagement.com/ACBR.htm

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Attention Deficit Disorder presents different challenges to different people. Some of us have the most trouble focusing and concentrating, while some of us have great difficulty regulating emotion. Whatever your greatest challenge is, there is one sure-fire way to be successful in spite of it: the ability to be resilient.

Miriam-Webster online defines resilience as "an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune or change." Applying this to adults with ADD, we might adjust the definition to "an ability to recover from or adjust easily to misfortune, change, setbacks, challenges, and failure." In order to be successful adults with ADD, we have to accept the undeniable fact that we will have challenges, we will have failures, and we will have disappointments. But we cannot let these setbacks stop us. Let’s take a practical look at resilience by comparing two adults with ADD, "Jane" and "Lilly."

Jane is an amazingly smart woman, but she doesn’t think so. She works in a high-pressure office where people are frenzied. She is a general assistant to several VIPs. One of her bosses frequently blames his own mistakes on her, and another boss often calls Jane stupid. Jane spends her evenings worn down and upset. She feels defeated. Once a very confident and happy woman, she has let the messages of a few jerks bring her down. She wants to find a new job, but she doesn’t think anyone else will hire her. In the very first week of her job, Jane knew it wasn’t a good fit for her and she should quit, but she didn’t trust her intuition and therefore stayed put. Lilly is also an amazingly smart woman with ADD.

Lilly had a hard time in school. She didn’t have very good grades, and was often told she was lazy, but she persisted. She graduated high school and, even though her parents discouraged her from going to college, she went anyway! She started off in a community college, where she discovered that when she could choose her course of study, she actually did quite well. From there she transferred to a very good state school. Lilly decided that she wanted to teach high school. She wanted to be "one of those teachers who makes a difference." Her college advisor told her she was crazy. She said "A woman of small stature and quiet voice, like you, can’t teach high school. You won’t be able to discipline the kids. They’ll eat you alive."

Lilly was crushed for two days. But in her heart, she knew better. She made a conscious choice not to listen to her advisor. In fact, she petitioned the school for a new advisor who would be more supportive, and she got one. Lilly has now been teaching high school history for 7 years, and was even voted "favorite teacher" in the yearbook superlatives! Jane has lost her resilience in this situation. She lets the words of others shape her thoughts about herself, and she no longer trusts herself. Lilly, on the other hand, has amazing resilience. She trusts herself, and she does not let others negative messages bring her down. She allows herself to be disappointed, but not for too long. She gets right back on track. And she has great successes to show for it.

Resilience in adults with ADD is all about moving forward. If we want to be successful adults with ADD, we simply cant let disappointments hold us back.

 Jennifer Koretsky is a Professional ADD Management Coach who helps adults manage their ADD and move forward in life. She encourages clients to increase self-awareness, focus on strengths and talents, and create realistic action plans. She offers a 90-day intensive skill-building program, workshops, and private coaching. Her work has been featured in numerous media, including The New York Times Magazine and The Times (UK). To subscribe to Jennifers free email newsletter, The ADD Management Guide, please visit http://www.addmanagement.com/e-newsletter.htm

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10. I place great emphasis on business development.

I get bored easily. (Typical ADD!) If I’m not continually challenging myself with developing new products, new services, new marketing techniques, and new speaking engagements, I get bored. I have a menu of products and services and I continually add to it, based on what my clients and prospects have told me they want and will buy.

9. I make the most of my newsletter, which has about 2200 subscribers and grows daily.

I give my subscribers valuable information, whether or not they choose to take advantage of my pay services. But I also don’t hesitate to make them aware of what I have to offer. If they buy, great. If they don’t, I don’t take it personally. At least I know I am putting out some good into the world and reaching a ton of people.

8. I keep my professional network & strategic alliance partners in the loop.

Many of my clients come from referrals. I feel that it’s very important to maintain regular contact with people who are referring clients to me, or who may refer clients to me in the future. I always acknowledge referrals and offer my thanks and appreciation.

7. I write down all my ideas.

I wish the government would pay me to sit in a room all day and generate ideas! I’d truly succeed. I am constantly dreaming up new and exciting workshops, programs, and products. I can’t implement them all at once, but I do write them down so that I can access the ideas when the time is right.

6. I’m happy making my living helping.

I continually remind myself of why I am coaching and what it means to me. I keep a "Happy Folder" where all the good feedback goes and I review it when I feel down. I work for the money. I coach because I love it. I coach ADDers because they’re fabulous people.

5. I focus on marketing, not BS work.

While it’s impossible to stay clear of what I call "BS work," I continually remind myself that things like web updates should only occupy my time when absolutely necessary. I’d rather spend my non-coaching time getting new clients.

4. I’m authentic and rarely attract an incompatible client.

If I know that I won’t work well with a potential client or that the relationship will not be satisfying to one or both of us, I refer the client to another coach who is better suited for the job. I would rather spend my time with – and make my money from – clients whom I know I can make a difference with.

3. I have an excellent team in place.

It took a while, but I finally embraced the idea that I can not, and should not, be doing everything. Delivering the coaching and developing the business are my strengths. I prefer to let others utilize their strengths in all other areas.

2. I have decided to make this coaching business work, and darn it, I will make it work!

I used to think that the word "failure" didn’t belong in my vocabulary. I came to realize that failure is inevitable. It will happen. And when it does, I am just one step closer to finding a solution that works.

1. I welcome the occasional "slow down" of business.
When things are slow, I use it as an opportunity to create more opportunities. "Slow" periods give me the time I need to focus on and follow through with marketing, client recruitment, and product development. Which of these can you do, right now, to move your own business forward?

Jennifer Koretsky is an ADD Management Coach who helps adults manage their ADD and move forward in life. She publishes The ADD Coaching Business Report, an eNewsletter that helps other coaches succeed in their business and marketing efforts and create viable coaching businesses. Subscribe to The ADD Coaching Business Report at http://www.addmanagement.com/ACBR.htm

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