I chose my mother perfectly. She wanted me to be perfect and I bought into it totally. I imagine that the choice was made during some period when I was out of a body and just an energy - a soul - and decided that a good part of my path in this life would be to always try to be perfect, often fall very short and finally realize at age 66 that perfection is a mental box. It keeps creativity from entering.
Let's look at an example. Let's say I want perfect grooming. I try to figure out how to have my hair look perfect. I try to figure out how my nails should look to be considered perfect. I spend lots of effort figuring out how to dress, moisturize, deodorize and criticize myself into perfection. Does it work? Can I ever really know from my inner knowing how to dress myself so that I express who I am? Of course not! And I probably have cut off that connection of knowing - that part of myself in order to put myself in someone else's grooming and fashion box.
Let's look at another example. Let's say I want the perfect career but I don't know who I am or what my gifts really are and, once again, I have cut myself off from that inner knowing by spending so much time in my thinking-ego-mind that I'm even confused about what others think is the perfect career. Which others really know? Which others are universally judged to know about these things - perfectly. No one, of course. No one, that is, expect you.
You are the only expert on you that you need. How do you take those "cut off" parts of yourself back? You keep learning, being open to hearing from truly loving support and you keep knowing that you are intrinsically, infinitly creative by virtue of being a part of the magnificent Whole. You are perfectly you.
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